Hello anonymousme.

Your story is upsetting. I feel for you, your wife and your neighbours. I am pleased that you are very philosophical around this and are approaching it from a positive, helpful point of view. You are just the sort of neighbour I’d like to have around.

I support Michael’s recommendation above. I’m sure other thoughtful forum users will provide more thinking around this. Particularly those that have been in similar circumstances. I look forward to hearing about the general situation around this young man and his mates improving in the near future.