Roz - Welcome back.

Some people just can't help themselves, I believe they are termed or described as being "control freaks".

Google states - as an informal noun defined as ,a person who feels an obsessive need to exercise control over themselves and others and to take command of any situation.

In psychology-related slang, the term control freak describes an individual who attempts to undermine other people based on how one dictates how everything is done around them.

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